Psycho sexual problems in intimacy

When women are not interested in sex or struggle to be physically intimate with their partners, my experience in talking to them is that they generally tend to blame themselves (I’ve never understood that). Many women actually say they ‘fake’ it (I used to think that was only in magazines).
Many women believe it’s their duty, and it doesn’t really matter if they don’t want to as long as they take care of their partners (another rationale that I find curious). Don’t get me wrong, it goes without saying that there will be days when both couple may not particularly be in the mood and you find ways to attend to your partner in the way loving couples do. I am more concerned about women who are not paying attention to those ongoing uncomfortable emotional or psychological feelings they have in relationship to sex and intimacy with their partners.

The truth of the matter is that just as men may have psychological or physiological reasons for experiencing sexual difficulties, the same applies to women.
The psychological causes for women not being interested in sex include certain thoughts, feelings or emotions that reduce the interest in sex. Fear, suppressed anger may cause sexual desire to disappear in certain situations. Fear could be related to fear of actual performance, fear of intimacy, fear of excitement, dissatisfaction with one’s own body ( this is quite prevalent), or fear relating back to a childhood experience.
Past traumatic experiences can have a profound effect or influence on low sexual desire. There could be sad experiences that haven’t been dealt with, such as the loss of a partner or other losses in a relationship. Sometimes it’s just a case of basic differences in libido or sexual needs.
Something that a lot of couples especially women seem to ignore is whether a woman still finds her partner physically and personally attractive to her. When last did you look at your partner lustfully and actually feel the desire? Or how often do you actually passionately tell your husband how great he looks as you both go out to a function. Equally how frequently do husbands or boyfriends take the time to make themselves look desirable specifically for their partners?
A reduced interest in sex can also be a frequent symptom of various psychiatric syndromes, the most common being depression.
Men and women experience sexual desire in different ways. Women see love, emotional intimacy and involvement as a goal, while men see sexual activity as the goal, a means to the end. It has been said that the brain is the most powerful sexual organ and this is probably even more the case for women than men.